Kat Von D on New Day Northwest...Is She a Nice Girl or Not?

Kat Von D appeared on New Day Northwest this morning promoting her new book, The Tattoo Chronicles. After confirming that "yes" she is dating Sandra Bullock's ex- Jesse James, she says that she is "always happy" when asked if the relationship was going well. Aside from her choice in men, she wasn't on the show to talk love, clearly, but instead to promote her book which is part tell-all, part art book.

But when asked by an audience member what is one message that she would like to convey as a "role model", her answer was, "I guess that I would like to convey, especially with girls, that you know, its just so important to love yourself. And that we are conditioned by this world to complete with each other and try to maintain this weird level of perfection. And to me, I think we are all perfect in our own way. And I don't know, I find beauty in everybody."

In my book, Bitch Please! How Nice Girls Can Succeed in a Bitch's World, I talk directly about this "conditioning" Kat Von D references. If you are a woman you have been exposed to unhealthy competitiveness, it is an unfortunate part of being a woman in this day and age.

I agree with Kat completely that we all try and maintain a level of perfection that doesn't exist. From glossy magazines to television shows, its hard for a modern day girl to avoid feeling ordinary. But, the refreshing twist here is that Kat Von D isn't a traditional beauty- in fact I think she is quite the opposite of what is usually portrayed in the media as beautiful. She says that she can find beauty in everyone, and that we are all perfect in our own way.

Can any of us claim to be perfect in our own way? And can this level of self-love ever backfire to the point of self-obsession or even be used as an excuse for bad behavior? I believe it can.

Can Kat Von D qualify as a nice girl?

Do her words match her actions?

How would we know? The hard part when looking to those in Hollywood to define integrity, is that we don't know their secret lives. We don't know what they are really like and can only develop opinions based upon the public persona we are shown.

From this interview, I have to say that Kat seems refreshingly awkward and honest. Watch it for yourself to formulate your own opinion.